Posted by:
You’ve been talking with a match online and the time has come: it’s time for the first date. Being prepared can help tremendously with the first date jitters. You can read Brad’s guide to online dating to help with some develop first date questions if you get stuck and don’t know what to say. However, it’s also good to think about your own approach as a list of questions is a start, but not necessarily the end of the ...
Continue Reading →Posted by:
Hello everyone – I am happy to announce that I had my first date. We met at a funky little coffee shop, not the average Starbucks.
I normally don’t like when people only post one profile picture, but I could tell through our communication that she was different and defiantly real. I was happy to meet her for a coffee. We seemed to hit things off well. She had her back up text come in but still stayed so I was ...
Continue Reading →Posted by:
For singles, Valentine’s Day can bring one stinging reminder after the next of a person’s solo status. The onset of advertisements ranging from heart-shaped confections to fine dining promotions can be pretty pervasive and comes neatly wrapped in a red satin bow. But if your calendar is still wide open on February 14th, here are a few thoughts to consider.
If you’re looking for a relationship, Valentine’s Day really isn’t all it’s ...
Continue Reading →Posted by:
In my last article, I wrote about a pattern I see in giving dating advice: one where a person assumes everyone they meet is doing something wrong where in reality they are the one creating the situation.
In that article, I ended by recommending that we all look to ourselves and ask if anything we’re doing could be driving people away. One problem I’ll admit exists in this advice is ...
Continue Reading →There have been times in my life, often at work, where someone has pointed out a way that I could improve how I’m doing things. I’m almost always surprised when I receive this advice: mostly because I can’t believe I didn’t see that what I was doing was a bad way of doing things.
I think that most of us, from time to time at least, lose a little bit of our self-awareness. When a celebrity says something absolutely crazy, ...
Continue Reading →I’m a big fan of getting to the first date quickly in online dating. I wrote about this in detail in my article on planning the first date. I didn’t realize this when I started my website, but it turns out that lots of people giving online dating advice hold this opinion too.
Personally, I had success with this approach. But one reader contacted me with some doubts:
I recently spilled my guts about my online dating hesitations and the first relationship I was in that came via an online match-up. To date, I have only met three men in person after meeting on the internet. Yes, I am that stubborn about meeting people online, plus I have had equal, if not better, success in the tried and true, old fashioned finding-dates-through-friends-and-hobbies approach.
Anyway, two of my online dating first dates became relationships, and the third was ...
Continue Reading →Posted by:
You’ve talked to your potential date for days, weeks, or sometimes months on the dating website. Maybe you exchanged numbers and spent time texting each other. Then, you get the invitation to lunch, dinner, or maybe just coffee. You’re a little apprehensive…and rightfully so. You set up your profile in the hopes of meeting that someone special. Yet now that it may be happening, many thoughts run through your mind. One of those thoughts is whether or not this person ...
Continue Reading →Posted by:
There are times where a first date is going great. The two of you are finding a lot in common. Then you say something to be funny or without much thought and realize you’ve offended your date. Suddenly the mood changes and your odds of a second date go from almost-guaranteed to non-existent. So how do you handle this situation?
First off, in my last article I pointed out that many people are overly-critical of themselves. What I’m talking about ...
Continue Reading →How do you respond when you think you’ve made mistakes on a first date? Do you think you’re “bad” at first dates? I find many people think this but in reality, they are doing fine.
I get regular emails discussing bad first dates and the desire to recover from a mistake on a first date. However, as I mention in the linked article, a fair amount of the emails I receive are from people who think they totally failed and ...
Continue Reading →Posted by:
Some of my most popular articles are in regards to women who are struggling to get the man that are dating exclusively to take their Match.com profile down. This is driven in part because Match shows the last time someone was active and will also show when they are currently online.
For most of the cases in the article mentioned above, a man and woman have committed to date each other exclusively but then the guy won’t take his profile ...
Continue Reading →Posted by:
Planning where you’ll meet for your first date can be challenging, especially early on in your online dating experiences. For me, early on I thought every date needed to be an all-out affair with a very nice dinner and some activity afterward.
As I started to have success and was going on multiple first dates a week, my bank account just couldn’t keep up with my dating life! Because of this, I began to suggest simpler dates, often just meeting ...
Continue Reading →