Dealing with harassment while online dating

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When I first read a profile that asked the guys to please talk to as if they were speaking with their Mom or sister, I thought it can’t be that bad. But then I kept coming across more and more profiles with the same statement along with statements like:
  • Please do not send me any inappropriate pics.
  • I’m not here for a one night stand
  • Please don’t ask me for sex.
At first, I thought this was just a few jaded women, but I ...
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Four weeks into online dating

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I’ve tried Brad’s method of contacting as many people as possible to improve my odds of getting a date. In my opinion, it’s not the best approach for me. I have a hard time going out with someone just to have a date. Having quality over quantity seems a better road to go down. Over the last two weeks, I have in a sense increased my odds by joining another free dating site called Plenty of Fish.

Although I have written ...

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Why Boundaries and Agreements are so Important

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To create a relationship that may blossom into long lasting partnership, boundaries must be identified and reinforced from the very beginning. As soon as you connect with someone online and progress towards meeting and officially dating, remain aware of personal boundaries.

A boundary is really an agreement with yourself or your partner about types of behavior ...

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Too Shy to Date

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Do you consider yourself too shy to date? There was a time in my life where I felt that way. Either I didn’t go on any dates (sometimes for years) or, when I tried, I ended up feeling more stress than enjoyment. However, I knew I was unhappy being single. Fortunately, I found a method to dating that works…even for someone who considered himself “too shy” to approach women or to go on a date without looking stressed out.

Maybe you’re ...

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The Right Way to Ask What Went Wrong

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In my last article, I wrote about a pattern I see in giving dating advice: one where a person assumes everyone they meet is doing something wrong where in reality they are the one creating the situation.

In that article, I ended by recommending that we all look to ourselves and ask if anything we’re doing could be driving people away. One problem I’ll admit exists in this advice is ...

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Is Every Person You Meet Horrible…or Something Else Going On?

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There have been times in my life, often at work, where someone has pointed out a way that I could improve how I’m doing things. I’m almost always surprised when I receive this advice: mostly because I can’t believe I didn’t see that what I was doing was a bad way of doing things.

I think that most of us, from time to time at least, lose a little bit of our self-awareness. When a celebrity says something absolutely crazy, ...

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Does Asking a Woman Out Quickly in Online Dating Work?

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I’m a big fan of getting to the first date quickly in online dating. I wrote about this in detail in my article on planning the first date. I didn’t realize this when I started my website, but it turns out that lots of people giving online dating advice hold this opinion too.

Personally, I had success with this approach. But one reader contacted me with some doubts:

I have a question regarding when to ask a girl out through ...
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Guy Winks at Me but Won’t Respond to my Emails

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The way Match.com works can sometimes create confusion for subscribers. In this case, a woman receives a wink from a man and she’s interested so she emails him back…then he doesn’t respond! What’s up with that? Here’s an example from a reader:

Hi, I have received a wink a couple of months ago from a match guy. He also made me a favorite and “liked” my pictures. I winked back and sent him a note thanking him. No response. A month ...

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Finding Real Closure in Online Dating

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With online dating, people can sometimes behave in strange ways that may cause us to want to give up on trying to communicate with them. Below is one example of how communication can fall apart as we are building a relationship. After the example, I’ll discuss how I feel it’s best to approach this type of situation.

I met a great guy online in December and we saw each other all that month and into January and everything was great! We ...

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