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There is a lot of dating advice out there and much of it tries to make your dating problems sound as if they are the easiest thing to solve in the world. Recently I was shown a video of a very handsome man giving dating advice on how everyone should just “get over” rejection. By looking at him it became clear that he had done most of the rejecting in his dating life (he made comments that further strengthened this ...
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I found an interesting article that proposes a math equation for suggesting the age of people you should be willing to date. I really liked this idea although as the person’s age increases, the less correct this equation seems. I really thought it worked well at the lower age ranges but in the 40s things started to get a little excessive first for the upper limit and then later for the lower limit as well.
For example, my dad ...
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Something that’s been around for a while (especially in Japan) but that I’ve only heard about recently is something called group dating. This works exactly like it sounds it would: a group of single men go out on a date with an equal number of single women.
In many ways, this is something that happens naturally at times but in this case it will be planned. As an example, there are plenty of times where a ...
Continue Reading →Strangely enough, this situation seems to happen more often than I would expect: after finding a serious relationship some men still keep their online dating profile active. The explanations for this are pretty weak but these men always make the argument that there’s some good reason to keep their profile active.
If you’re a woman who has found herself in this situation, I think you have a problem on your hands. It may not mean he’s cheating but I do think ...
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As I remember all too well, spending Valentine’s Day alone can be a painful process. Spending it alone for a few years in a row only makes things worse. I wanted to share some thoughts since the date is quickly approaching and I know that there were more than a few years I hated that the holiday even existed.
It’s as Much About Money as Love
It’s a man-made holiday and is really no different than the 13th or the ...
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As I discuss in my online dating guide, I think it’s best to be prepared for the worst when going on a first date. By no means did all of my online first dates go bad (many went great) but there were more than a few that I expected to go well that went horribly. As I’ve suggested, I think the best approach is to tell the person you’ll be meeting that you will only ...
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I was recently talking to a woman who decided to end an online relationship after the first date because her date had complained for much of the dinner. This got me thinking about complaining in general and how as people we are so drawn to doing so. Even when this woman came to me to discuss this bad date, she was doing so to…well…complain!
Because as people we complain so often, I don’t see the activity in itself as a ...
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In my last post, I discussed ways to break your way into the conversation even if your date doesn’t ask you any questions. Today, I wanted to discuss this same issue but from the other side: remembering to share the conversation.
Sometimes people are simply too excited on a date and the result is that they talk about themselves the entire night. Another thing that happens with online dating is some people, particularly men, will research ways to keep the ...
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A reader recently wrote in with this frustration: on dates he is able to get conversations going easily but finds most of the women he meets, while willing to answer his questions, ask no questions of their own. They often appear very interested in the conversation but are willing to allow it remain about them. He questioned whether these women, who often seem swept off their feet, are actually interested at all. His dates would also say things like “Gee, ...
Continue Reading →Is there any recovering from a bad first date? If you know you made a bad first impression or if the date went badly but you are hoping for a second chance, my honest opinion is that the odds aren’t in your favor (sorry!).
This is especially true if your first date was set up through an online dating service or was a blind date. No surprise there considering how important a first impression is, and with online dating the ...
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On this blog I devote most of my attention to online dating but this isn’t the only method of meeting people. Just because you start dating online doesn’t mean you should forget about all the other options out there. Here’s a list of some ideas for meeting people when you’re not on your favorite dating site:
Meet-up Groups
I often recommend that people try Meetup.com as it has people of all types and ages meeting up for nearly limitless ...
One of the most important things to be concerned with on any first date is ensuring things start off the right way. Several studies have suggested that the first moments of interacting with someone are the most important. Most people who have been dating online for a substantial amount of time don’t need a study to tell us this: plenty of us have known within the first few minutes that a first date was going to be the last.
Making sure ...
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