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This article is one in a series that discusses protecting yourself from scams when dating online.
There are many online dating scams out there but I would consider this the “main” scam. This scam involves the scammer posing as a potential love interest with the goal of making money off of their target. It’s amazing how many people are fooled by this one but the bad guys are good at what they do and can be ...
Continue Reading →Is it better to ignore unwanted contact or come right out and tell someone that you’re not interested? I’ve had this question asked a few times…always by women but I assume some men find themselves asking this question as well. On one hand, simply ignoring people is generally considered rude but on the other explicitly rejecting someone isn’t something most people like to do. For many of us, especially early on in our online dating, this creates something of a ...
Continue Reading →Note: In discussing this topic I’ll be using a Christian dating service as an example but I hope it becomes clear that this advice can be applied to many different types of niche sites. I use this example as I have some personal experience in the area. I also have a friend who has had success using a Christian service after having no luck with one of the “big” sites and I draw many of my thoughts from conversations with ...
Continue Reading →Several times I’ve been asked if a girl should email first in online dating. First things first: yes, it’s absolutely fine for a woman start the email conversations in online dating. However, I think when this question is asked what these women really want to know: “Will writing first be worth my time? Are men open to this?” This is where the questions get a little more difficult to answer.
Before I get into the advice, it’s probably worth mentioning ...
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If you never give online dating a chance, you’re never going to have success with it! This comic makes that point quite well. I probably shouldn’t admit this but that was me for a long time. Then, as I’ve said before, my loneliness finally outweighed my pride and I gave online dating a try. Things got much, much better at that point.
Update: Here’s another good one.
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When I was single, I always felt like meeting women was very difficult. And for me, for quite a long time, it was. But then, almost over night things seemed to come together and I was meeting lots of women and I was even getting plenty of dates. Some weeks I would have multiple first dates and there were even a few weeks where I had more nights with dates than without. There were several things I changed over the ...
Continue Reading →A reader wrote in asking if it is worth his time to send a second email when a woman didn’t respond to his first.
First things first, not getting a response after the first email is normally a sign to move on. If the woman is using the site actively, reads your email and then doesn’t respond there’s normally a reason. In “real” life, it is not uncommon for a man to pursue a woman who turned him down the first ...
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One strange woman and I never gave out my phone number again. I had been dating online for about three months at this point. I was still in that phase where I didn’t know what I was doing and I wasn’t having any success. I was so excited when a woman asked for my number I didn’t think twice about it. I should have hesitated as we had barely exchanged any emails at all but, like I said, I was ...
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I’ve not had much to say lately…and by lately I mean for the last year or so. I always had a vision for my site: share what I had learned from online dating with others. Once I had posted all the concrete examples I had to share I found myself looking for excuses to post (and I don’t feel like these posts were all that helpful). Eventually I decided to stop posting, allowing to let the site continue on as-is. ...
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I’ve recently been discussing the difficulties of dating with a friend of mine. In her case, the struggle has been that while she wants to date someone looking for a serious relationship, many of the guys she meets make it clear they are not ready for that. At the same time, she hasn’t been interested in any of the guys that have expressed an interest in exactly the kind of relationship she is looking for. It might sound like she’s ...
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When I started writing my online dating guide, I had hoped it would be helpful to people that were either brand new to online dating or who were considering using a dating service. However, based on my traffic, it appears that most of my readers are already taking advantage of an online dating service. While this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, I suspect my guide is much less useful to people who have experience with online ...
Continue Reading →My last article talked about an offer from Match.com where you could get six months free after paying for six months (although there are more than a few hoops to jump through to earn those free months).
