A reader recently wrote me with a very unique situation that was leading to multiple unsuccessful first dates.
In many cases, failed first dates can be a mystery: did she not like my personality? Was he not attracted to me? On the other hand, sometimes we know exactly why we are seeing failed dates…we just don’t know how to respond to them.
In this case, my reader knew exactly why he was struggling on the first dates but wasn’t sure how ...
Continue Reading →I’ve discussed writing first emails a good deal both on this site and in my free dating guide. One thing I’ve discussed in these areas is that I’ve never liked is the “form” email: where the guy writes one email and then plugs each woman’s information in to make it appear personalized.
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I was recently contacted by a reader asking that I review his first email style and when doing so I was reminded of what I talk about in my guide:
Sometimes the most important thing to do when dating online is to just come off as normal!
Perhaps more than anywhere else in life, normal can be exceptional with online dating. I say this because of the weirdness that can go on with online dating. Having a guy just write you a ...
Continue Reading →Some time ago I wrote an article discussing women making the first step in communication with online dating sites. My argument was that women should be encouraged to kick off the process, even if that only entailed some online “flirting”.
In that article, my main focus was sites like Match.com where the communication is started by one person by writing an email. However, recently I had a reader ask me a question regarding women making the first ...
Continue Reading →A reader writes in the following question:
Continue Reading →Hello, your site has been very helpful, but I still have another question.
I read the article on why woman may not respond to emails, but I have a related issue. What do you think it means if women that I email view my profile soon after, meaning they theoretically have read them, and then do absolutely nothing? This happens a lot to me and is quite frustrating.
Thanks for any ...
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I cover my approach writing first emails with online dating in my post First Contact Email Examples. In that article I also give some examples of how I would write some first emails based on several random dating profiles.
In this article, I will review some more first dating emails based on advice I gave to ...
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When I first started this site, one of the things that bothered me most about the online dating advice I had been finding was that everything had the same answer: be more confident.
I found this advice very hard to take and I actually gave up on acting confident. I think occasionally I might have been successful at appearing confident but I was consistently successful as not portraying who I really was…the gains weren’t worth the sacrifice.
At any rate, I discussed ...
Continue Reading →From time to time I see online dating safety advice offering this as a suggestion: bring a friend with you on a first date.
I understand the need to be safe but I really dislike this suggestion. Mostly because I had a woman bring a friend on a first date with me and it really hurt the odds of having another date (there wasn’t one). Admittedly, I found her approach as annoying as her actions…so I guess a full story is ...
Continue Reading →First date conversations are a tricky thing: we all realize how important they are but sometimes we still don’t prepare while other times we put so much emphasis on having “good” conversations we actually create problems for ourselves.
In one of my very first articles for this site, I had given tips for first date conversations based on what worked well for me. I wanted to touch on the points I made back ...
Continue Reading →I recently read an article AskMen.com that covered five mistakes men make early on that scare women away. I think this article is well worth reading regardless of how you are meeting women. I also wanted to offer my take in this area, but specifically for online dating.
Most of my thoughts revolve around one idea: not coming off as strange ...
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For whatever reason, some people see apologizing as the preferred way ...
Continue Reading →Have you had a bad date, where things went horribly, horribly wrong? If so, you might be able to win a $50 gift card and some other prizes over at Daily Dating Advice who are having a contest for the worst date story. From the site:
Continue Reading →You have 2 weeks, starting now until 06/1/10, to submit your worst date story using the contact form accessible with the link below. In 2 weeks, our expert dating team will review all ...
