Are You Making These 10 First Date Mistakes?

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There are many mistakes that are made on first dates…far more than I will list here. However, I will cover the 10 mistakes that I saw from others while dating online, made myself while dating or have learned about by talking with other singles about online dating. If you are struggling to find second dates I would strongly recommend seriously reviewing this list.

1. Trying to Act Like Someone Else
Many people ask: How should I act on a first date? ...

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The Right Way to Encourage Contact in Your Dating Profile

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I’ve looked at my fair share of online dating profiles and I wanted to talk about one of the bad habits I see in many profiles: the plea for contact. There are many examples of this; some good examples but honestly most of the time when I see someone trying to encourage communication it isn’t done in a good way. Here are some of the more common ways people will attempt this:

  • If you decide to contact me, I’m very flattered.
  • Please ...
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How to Use VIP Emails at Match.com

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What is a VIP email message? It stands for “Very Interested Person” and this is a new type of message that Match.com is testing at the time of this writing (right now only some users are currently able to use). You should see a “Use Your VIP Email” button when you’re writing an email if you’re in the group of users who have this feature enabled.

A VIP email has a few rules and features that make it significantly ...

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Online Dating: The Business of People Marketing

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I found myself reading an article recently about professional profile writing and it discussed how Kate Houston, the owner of TrySweetTalk.com, is helping singles find success with well written dating profiles. I’ve worked with Kate some in the past and I think the examples on her site show exactly how good she is at what she does. Plus, at $80 (last I heard anyway – her prices may change) it’s a pretty good deal.

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Avoid Complaining on First Dates

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I was recently talking to a woman who decided to end an online relationship after the first date because her date had complained for much of the dinner. This got me thinking about complaining in general and how as people we are so drawn to doing so. Even when this woman came to me to discuss this bad date, she was doing so to…well…complain!

Because as people we complain so often, I don’t see the activity in itself as a ...

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Remembering to Share the Conversation

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In my last post, I discussed ways to break your way into the conversation even if your date doesn’t ask you any questions. Today, I wanted to discuss this same issue but from the other side: remembering to share the conversation.

Sometimes people are simply too excited on a date and the result is that they talk about themselves the entire night. Another thing that happens with online dating is some people, particularly men, will research ways to keep the ...

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My Date Doesn’t Ask Me Any Questions

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A reader recently wrote in with this frustration: on dates he is able to get conversations going easily but finds most of the women he meets, while willing to answer his questions, ask no questions of their own. They often appear very interested in the conversation but are willing to allow it remain about them. He questioned whether these women, who often seem swept off their feet, are actually interested at all. His dates would also say things like “Gee, ...

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Can You Get a Second Chance After A Bad First Date?

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Is there any recovering from a bad first date? If you know you made a bad first impression or if the date went badly but you are hoping for a second chance, my honest opinion is that the odds aren’t in your favor (sorry!).

This is especially true if your first date was set up through an online dating service or was a blind date. No surprise there considering how important a first impression is, and with online dating the ...

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Who Should Pay on the First Date?

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I was discussing online dating with a friend recently and she explained how she has twice ended an online dating relationship with men due to the fact that they didn’t even offer to pay for her on the first date. These dates weren’t anything expensive either, just coffee. These men had also established that they had well paying jobs. I’m surprised that this happened to her twice in a few months so I think this topic is worth covering.

Guys, the ...

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Men Get Stupid When Talking To Beautiful Women

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If you’re a man and you’ve ever been frustrated by the fact that you fall apart socially around beautiful women, it’s not just you. According to a study discussed in the Telegraph, studies have shown that men actually do lose much of their ability to think and reason when around pretty women:

The research shows men who spend even a few minutes in the company of an attractive woman perform less well in tests designed to measure brain function than ...

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First Date Fashion Assistance

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In a recent article, I discussed how to dress for a first date. However, even when you know what to wear in general, there are times where it’s not clear if a particular outfit is worth wearing. We often second guess our opinion on the outfit and either decided not to wear or we wear it but worry all night long. In both cases, we can end up regretting our decision.

I’ve seen it recommended to upload a photo of yourself ...

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Should I Lose Weight Before Dating Online?

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Some people think about dating online but put it off because they want to improve something about themselves before they start. I don’t have any statistics but I think it’s safe to assume the number one reason for this is to attempt to lose weight. Do I believe this is a good idea? Should a person lose weight before subjecting themselves to online dating?

In my opinion, the answer is no (with one small exception). Why is waiting a mistake?

  • First, going ...
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