Online Dating After Divorce

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A marriage can seem like a lifetime, and it is certainly supposed to be. But we all know life doesn’t work out like that, and things change. Divorce can be an incredibly stressful and exhausting process but once you’ve got through the other side, when is the right time to start dating again?

The answer is…there is no answer. Sorry, but only you know when you’re ready to dip your toe in the dating pool. The important thing to remember is, don’t rush into anything. It’s unlikely that you’ll be searching for another marriage so soon, so now is the time to relax and have a good time! But there are a few things to think about when searching for the perfect date online:

What are Your Interests?
We’re all guilty of the odd fib but your online dating profile should be honest about who you are. So putting that you love sky diving just to impress a potential partner will only end in disaster! If you prefer cooking at home and going to the theatre, say so, there is likely to be someone out there who shares the same passions and interests as you. And it’s never too late to find a new hobby.

When in a long term relationship, things can get in the way of us pursuing our hobbies. Maybe you were really passionate about something, but your other half wasn’t so keen? In that case, now is a better time than ever to rekindle your interest in an old hobby. You never know, you may even meet someone! If not it’ll give you the opportunity to be the person you want to be, and create an honest online dating profile.

Make Time for Loved Ones.
Although it is important to get out there and meet new people, make sure you take your old friends along for the ride. Just because you’re moving on with your life it doesn’t mean you have to start all over again. Make sure that you don’t spend all your free time looking out for a new partner. Set aside time to go out with friends and make time for your family. But it’s okay to be selfish sometimes too.

Remember to Find Time for Yourself
Go to the gym, exercise classes, anything! It can be tempting to let yourself go a bit when you’re married. Everyone does it! But now you’re single you need to start looking after yourself. The better you look and the healthier you feel will make you both more confident and positive about the future. And for when you do find your perfect date, confidence and positivity will make you more attractive!

But most of all remember to have a good time, relax and don’t put any pressure on yourself!

This article is a guest post by Sarah who is a friend of the site. If you would be interested in writing a guest post please feel free to contact me.
 

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About the Author:

Brad initially struggled with online dating but over time became quite successful using it. He met his wife using online dating and has been giving advice and helping people improve their results since 2007. He has written a Free Online Dating Guide to help others find success with online dating. You can learn more about his personal experience using online dating and running this website here.

Comments

  1. George  January 12, 2012

    I totally agree with taking care of yourself first. Your ex is far away – just accept it and turn towards yourself. Do not jump into dating again – make all possible efforts to treat yourself with all the best around. Gym , health, good food, good clothing, new devices, vacation… Love yourself – you’re the best in this world. Then you become a magnet attracting new dates by yourself.

  2. Emma  January 27, 2012

    I so agree. It can sometimes seem urgent to “replace,” but you also need time to heal.
    When you do start dating, make a promise to yourself you won’t talk about your ex or
    your problems.
    When pressed, say that things didn’t work out or that you are focusing on
    the now and the future. (You can use your couselor and friends to vent about the
    divorce, ex, etc.)
    Take a deep breath, relax, and yes, exude positive energy.