My Online Dating Success Story, Continued

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Last year I talk about my overall experience with online dating, and how my experience turned into an online dating success story.

From time to time, I like to remind people of the joys I have in my life because I stuck with online dating (even after 8 months of failing!) to eventually find that success story. Today I have another reason to talk about my “success” from using online dating:

About two weeks ago, on September 25th, my wife and I had our first baby. Brennan was anxious to see the world and came a few weeks early. We had to spend 5 days in the NICU before finally getting to leave the hospital, but last Sunday we were all finally home together.

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I know online dating can be a pain in the butt and I’m not trying to downplay the struggle that it presents: I remember it all too well. However, looking back, each day that passes gives me a new reason to be happy that I didn’t give up.

The internet is full of people who let everyone know how bad online dating is or how sad the people are that use it. I know I’m in the minority but I want to lend my voice to say that online dating is great and the people who use it (and I talk to a lot of you every week) are awesome. Please don’t give up too quickly as I’d hate to think about what I’d be missing right now if that had been my decision.

On a semi-related note, with a new baby I’m finding my life quite hectic. I’ve always run this site because I care about the topic and I enjoy helping people…but running this site is NOT my full time job. So between work and Brennan and normal life responsibilities, my schedule is rather full. I’ll likely be a little slower to respond to those emails or a bit behind on approving comments. Hopefully over time I’ll get better at this but I just want to warn you now: a slow response doesn’t mean I don’t care!

And if you missed it and want to see more of my thoughts on this topic (and a photo of Brennan before he was born) see my article Baby.



About the Author:

Brad initially struggled with online dating but over time became quite successful using it. He met his wife using online dating and has been giving advice and helping people improve their results since 2007. He has written a Free Online Dating Guide to help others find success with online dating. You can learn more about his personal experience using online dating and running this website here.


  1. Sheri  October 8, 2012

    Congratulations Brad and Family!!! He is beautiful!

    On my own side note, I went on an awesome first date with a really nice guy this weekend…and he called this morning and said he had been up most of the night thinking of me and our conversation and how he didn’t want to mess things up with me or give me mixed signals and he said he knew it was really early on but he felt very strongly that we have a great connection and he wants us to be in a relationship!! He was very hesitant and kind and said he would wait for me if I wasn’t ready. I didn’t need time. I don’t want to talk to anyone else, I don’t want to date anyone else. I just want to see where this leads. Hopefully it will lead to him being my last first kiss…but no matter what I know the process works if you work at it and surround yourself with lots of support for the times when you feel like you’re just spinning your wheels.

    Oh, and I took your advice last night and was completely honest with him about my history and how I’ll be very sensitive to the feeling that I’m not good enough or that he’s looking for someone else (and how I tend to overanalyze everything), and that I might become a crazy person under certain situations but that I’m open to talking about it. He thought it was adorable that I was being so open with him. Let’s see how adorable he thinks I am when I really do withdraw because of being trapped in my own brain for too long! LOL! As difficult as that part of the conversation was for me, I’m glad I was honest and open with him…and that very well might have been the very thing that led him to call me this morning, to reassure me that he’s all in.

  2. melani  October 8, 2012

    Thats a beautiful baby! Congrats!

  3. Michael Nicholson  September 27, 2016

    I’m new to online dating and I’m finding it very hard to get a response. Is that normal for guys especially in the beginning? Is there anything I should be doing to get responses going? Is this usually stemming from the guy’s profile or the girl not wanting a dud/her hear broken & being very picky or maybe the girls constantly trying to trade up?


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