How much does it cost to join eHarmony? eHarmony cost and subscription pricing are listed below with promotional codes (coupons) you can use below that. eHarmony is reluctant to give out this information until you’re an official member…and since becoming a member involves a very long personality profile test, I wanted to list them here.
| 1 Month | 3 Months | 6 Months | 12 Months | |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| eHarmony – U.S. |
$59.95 | $39.95 | $29.95 | $19.95 |
| eHarmony – Canada |
$59.95 | $39.95 | $29.95 | $19.95 |
| eHarmony – Australia |
$59.95 | $39.95 | $29.95 | $19.95 |
| eHaromny – U.K. | £34.95 | £24.95 | £14.95 | £11.65 |
In addition to those prices, eHarmony also has promotions (which you can find here) that give a discount for the longer-term subscriptions. These are time-sensitive and therefore not always available but when they are you can save up to 20%.
eHarmony also has frequent free events where you can use much of the service without any cost for extended time periods, which makes signing up in advance a good idea (they’ll email you regarding the free events once you have a free account).
Check out my full review of eHarmony for my thoughts on this online dating service.
eHarmony TotalConnect
eHarmony TotalConnect is the standard eHarmony subscriptions with several optional features that are normally offered separately. Using the eHarmony TotalConnect will save you some money if you are going to uses these optional features. The additional features that are included are:
- Premium Personality Profile: Provides a deeper understanding of your personality and how it can affect your relationships and dating life.
- RelyID: Provides other singles with the knowledge that you are who you say you are by validating your ID. This can encourage some people to communicate with you more readily.
- Secure Call: Secure call allows you to communicate with your matches over the phone while keeping your phone number totally anonymous – plus there are no long distance charges. In my opinion, this is the best of the additional features included in the TotalConnect plan.
The TotalConnect prices are as follows:
Thoughts on the Subscription Pricing at eHarmony
First, the longer you sign up for the more you save. At the same time, a lower eHarmony cost for a subscription doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll “save”.
For example, in the U.S. if you sign up for 3 months you’re paying $39.85 a month where signing up for 6 months will cost $29.95 a month and the full year will cost what equates to $19.95 a month. Still, paying for a full year doesn’t necessarily save you money. For example, if you meet someone in 3-months on the 12-month plan, then you’ve essentially paid about $79 a month (assuming you wouldn’t need to use the service again for the remainder of the year you’ve subscribed for).
I think there’s a happy medium to be found for subscribing to eHarmony. Personally, it’s hard for me to imagine signing up for a year unless I loved dating or I was extremely pessimistic. However, if you’re brand new to online dating, it’s uncommon to find yourself in a relationship in the first month. Because of this, I would say that if you’re new to online dating, committed to sticking with it, and interested in taking things slow building a relationship, sign up for 6-months as it will save you money in the long run (especially with the promo which works out to about $24 a month). If you’re experienced with online dating or open to jumping into a relationship quickly, 3 months might be a safer bet (sadly, not coupon for the shorter subscriptions). Obviously signing up for a single month or a full year is fine too but they each have some draw backs (an extremely high price for the single month and the long commitment for the year).
The good thing about signing up for the 3-month plan is even if you did stop using it after two months you wouldn’t have paid any more than if you had been on the single month plan. The same thing goes for the 6-month plan: as long as you can stick with it for 3 months (less with the promo), you’re not out money. When I was dating online I used eHarmony for about 5 months and I used the month-to-month plan. I think I was overly optimistic, each time when auto-renewing thinking to myself that I would meet someone in the next month. There’s nothing wrong with this thinking but I could have saved a lot of money if I had taken a middle-of-the-road approach.
A Warning Regarding Auto-Renewals
One final note: many dating services will auto-renew you at the same plan when your current runs out. When signing up for any dating site plan, be aware of this. For example, if you sign up for 6 months and then meet that special someone after the fourth or fifth, I would recommend canceling your account so it will NOT auto-renew for another 6 months (although you should still be able to access your account until the current plan time runs out). I am not sure what eHarmony’s renewal policy is but this advice should be taken for any dating site you are paying for.
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I don't think you can put a price on love, but sites can help in the search. Good luck to everyone.
This is great info. There are so many options out there and blogs like this make it easier to sort through when choosing an online dating site. I'm surprised to find out how expensive eHarmony can be, but to me, it seems like the most reputable online dating site. That auto-renewing is tricky though…
I have had several friends that have gone through these sites and although it sometimes takes awhile (2 of them actually found their wives on the last day of the subscription!!) it was very well worth it to them. I agree with Mike….it's hard to put a price on love and sometimes we need some help to find the right person.
Yeah, the cost of eHarmony can be high but I think it's all about the opportunity the service provides. I think if there were a dating service that cost $250 a month but guaranteed you would find that special person in those first 30 days, that it would be a very popular service. Obviously that service will never exist. My point is that people are willing to pay a higher cost for a better chance and I think in some ways that is what eHarmony provides.
and how does eharmony gurantee that you won't be bombarded with liars and cheaters? i caught my boyfriend subscribing to both eharmony and match.com – and he looks great on those profiles – who knows, may be one of you lucky ladies who pay to meet people like that will get him… good luck!
eHarmony makes no such guarantee (you'll find liars in any form of dating to be fair). However, people who lie in their profile photos will have very bad first dates as they are immediately exposed as a liar and will either learn to stop lying or they will continue to fail. I talk with lots of people about online dating every week (obviously) and people lying in their photos is not a major complaint I hear. I rarely ever hear that one.
Also, I hope you mean ex-boyfriend
Maybe you haven’t ran across that because you’re a guy. I’ve joined two dating services and on both it was the same thing. The guy didn’t even give his real name and it was a scam to try and get money from you. I reported it and they didn’t do a thing about it. My girlfriend by some freaky coincidence got the same guy and he basically did the same thing with her. They’re out there believe me and the internet makes it real easy for them.
I met my husband on eHarmony…we are truly a perfect match….I try to tell everyone that it’s not worth wasting time on Match.com (tried that first)… those services are way cheaper BUT you get a lot of window shoppers, or people looking for a date for the weekend…the people on eHarmony are paying a higher price & therefore are more serious about their commitment to the process……I met my husband in my first month, but he had been on there 7 months….it was definitely worth the money because we are truly happy!
Thanks for your thoughts Lori. My experience was rather similar to your husband’s: I was dating online actively for a year before I met my wife but I was her first date using the internet! I guess my wife would say that online dating *really* works well since she barely had to use it at all!
Brad;
Yes when I was your age we found women from groups and going to party’s, we did not have the Internet in the 70′s. Try dating at my age 50, it’s not as easy, believe me, baggage
is the main issue, I’m divorced so this media realy sucks. Been on 25 dates with no luck.
Brad
Stay married, the grass is not greener out here
My niece and my cousin both met their spouses on eHarmoney. They are very happy and were well matched. I look forward to success with this site. I have a lot more faith in eHarmoney than I do the off chance I might meet someone I am as well matched too in the same amount of time.
I have a friend who routinely gets email solicitations from eHarmony offering him $10 per month subscriptions for a 3-month commitment. I’m LIVID! What it says on the solicitation is that 3 out of 4 eHarmony members are women, so I guess they are trying to give major price breaks to attract more men. I cancelled my subscription immediately. Isn’t it illegal to charge a woman more than 4xs what you’re charging a man for the exact same service?
Well there are tons of other places that won’t charge females, and require payment from all men. It’s their bussiness. Respectfully they can do as they please at their discretion.
Look up quest. Free to all females. All men pay. I don’t use it now, it’s low quality. However it would be nice if everything was fair and equal all the time. But that’s not likley to be realistic.
Hey Allison – I doubt it’s illegal (although I’m not a law expert). I have heard of dating services where women don’t pay at all and I also know some bars have “ladies nights” so I suspect a different cost based on sex isn’t breaking any laws (again, not an expert).
Also, I had heard in the past that Chemistry had more women than men but this is the first time I’ve heard anything like that for eHarmony…was this stated in the emails your friend was receiving? If it came from anyone other than eHarmony I would be suspicious.
Enjoyed the article and found it useful. I have wanted to start dating again and find it hard to find another option to on-line dating. I can’t think of a better way to meet someone; can anyone else?
I would really love to join eHarmony as finding a committed Christian partner has been a difficult, long and fruitless exercise for me out here! However, being on a pension the cost is prohibitive. Yes, I agree love is worth it, but I still have bills to pay and food to buy and I just cannot afford the subscriptions asked for.
Marianne – have you ever tried OKCupid? It will be a bigger hassle to find exactly what you’re looking for on a site like this but it is free.
If you’re not familiar with it, I wrote a lot about that service here:
http://www.datingadviceguy.com/2009/12/07/okcupid-dating-guide-the-best-free-dating-around/
Any website that spams to promote itself deserves to be ignored by everyone. I’ve been receiving spam from eharmony for ages. Finally I decided to see just how much they make. Also, on the internet, no one knows if you’re a shill… just some food for thought.
Name – I don’t consider eHarmony’s emails to be spam. I found them very valuable when I was dating online. Actually, I still find them valuable because they reveal when they are having free weekends!
As far as I can tell eHarmony emails me one the following about once every two weeks:
1. General dating advice which is normally pretty solid and helpful
2. Discounts for subscribing
3. Alerts of free weekends
So what you see as a detriment (i.e., spam) I see as a benefit!
I am in a position I never thought I would be in, dating at 55. I did join Match.com, my reasoning being “free” dating sites are easy, using the old “you get what you pay for” theory, but I’m finding that it’s scary out there! It feels like a job, and my profile feels like a resume’. You know what I mean? Look good on paper, get the attention of the person deciding who to interview. Any suggestions on safety, and sorting the chaf from the wheat?
Also I’m willing the give eharmony a try is it worth the cost? Do you feel there is a major difference between Match and EHarmony?
Hey Cindy – Match.com and eHarmony are both good dating services although they do approach things very differently. I talk about the differences in my article Match.com vs. eHarmony.
Where are the promo codes for eharmony you mention in this article?
Sorry Joe, you can find the details on the promotions here:
http://www.datingadviceguy.com/online-dating-promotional-codes/
I’ll update the article to include this as well. Thanks for catching that.
love the blog and comments. very helpful… just beginning to wade the waters of dating after 50. Scary rip tides are everywhere..!
I agree with John. Maybe you should start your own dating service, Brad! Like John, I too am considering data at 50 years young and found the information helpful. sooo many quesitons on eharmony!
I saw that the price of eharmony will be like $59 a month. Do I have to pay for 6 months at a time all at one payment, or can I just take it a month at a time and pay only $59 up front?
I have been on other websites that are free. and I have beeon on Match and paid.
So will eharmony be better since it seems to match couples according to each other personality?
Ronald
Ronald – If you subscriber for 6 months, you’ll pay for all 6 months (barring the possible promotional offer from eHarmony that would let you pay monthly). This will save you a good bit of money as the longer you sign up for, the less the monthly cost is. However, you can choose to pay month to month.
As far as how much better eHarmony will be, that varies from person to person. Some people absolutely love the matching system and have a lot of success with it while others miss the ability to contact anyone they want. My opinion is that eHarmony provides a great service but you’ll want to decide for yourself.
Hi -really love the blog and up front info! Just wondering about eharmony -is the way you meet “someone” based on if they agree to meet you? Is that all in the control of “eharmony”?
Thanks
Hey Barb – eHarmony controls who you communicate with by providing you a list of people on the site they think you’d get along well with (as opposed to letting you talk to everyone using the site). Once they give you someone to communicate with, you’re more in control to move that forward as you see fit, although how you move forward is more structured than at other dating sites.
Great blog. I’m totally new to online dating so the information you provided and the comments are very helpful. Thank you. I was wondering if you could tell me anything about the International aspect that E harmony has under 1 of the links for international dating. They are partnered with another site. Is that a separate membership ( for example if you also wanted to be matched with people from the Spanish site) ?. I am not a member if eharmony yet, but knowing that international prospects are also available might help me decide to jump in
Hey Yvonne – unfortunately I have very little knowledge on how the international versions of eHarmony. I know that Australia and UK versions are different than the US version (with a different subscription) but I don’t know much beyond that. If I had to guess, I’d say each one is a different service and I don’t think signing up for the US version would give you much opportunity internationally.
But I might be wrong – any other readers have any knowledge on this?
I would love to join eharmony, but cant afford the membership. I have heard so many good things about this site. Do you ever offer specials?
Mary – eHarmony does have specials. The only way I’m aware of getting the really good deals is to sign up for a free account and then wait for them to email out a special. Be warned it can take a long (potentially months) as there’s no published schedule for these kind of discount but the discounts themselves can be really good. I’ve seen it as low as $9.95 for one month. Also, creating that free account is a good idea because they’ll also email you when they’re having free weekends.
Dear Allison
No matter what they charge women to join, I have been on two different dating sites and no woman has ever picked up the dinner bill. I bought a lot of dinners for women who just wanted to eat for free and leave. So be glad it only costs you the subscription rate
I don’t understand “free weekends.” If you’re paying a monthly fee, and not a daily fee, how does a free weekend work? Do they add 2 days onto the end of your 6 months or something?
Jackie – you can create a free account at eHarmony where you don’t pay anything. This free account allows you to do very, very little though. Basically, you can create you account and see some basic information on who they are matching you with. But nothing really beyond that.
With the free weekends, you can actually communicate with the people you are being matched with. This doesn’t affect paying members directly – if they are paying, they can do everything that a free weekend would give them. It can affect paying members indirectly in the sense that on the free weekends they may get a lot more communication, though.