Why You Should be Picky When Dating Online

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You’re being too picky.

Those are words that well-meaning friends have said to one another for thousands of years. And for thousands of years it was often reasonable advice. But today, with availability of online dating, it’s quite possible that you’re not being picky enough.

I’m prompted to write this because of a video I saw by a woman named Amy Webb. Amy used data to improve her online dating life and she’s now written a book called Data, A ...

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My Online Dating Success Story, Continued

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Last year I talk about my overall experience with online dating, and how my experience turned into an online dating success story.

From time to time, I like to remind people of the joys I have in my life because I stuck with online dating (even after 8 months of failing!) to eventually find that success story. Today I have another reason to talk about my “success” from using online dating:

About two weeks ...

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OCT
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Level Setting in Online Dating after You’ve Been Cheated On

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I have quite a few conversations with my readers on the topic of commitment, often around the issue of people not taking their profile down as you enter a committed relationship.

While emailing with one reader this week, I was reminded of something my wife did that was very helpful early in our relationship. I’m hoping passing along her approach will be helpful to others who are now considering entering a relationship after having been cheated on.

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SEP
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Match.com Baby

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As many reader’s here know, I met my wife using the dating service Match.com. We’ve been married for 5 years now and are entering the next phase of our family: expecting our first child.

We decided to have some fun with finding out the sex of our baby by having a gender reveal party. If you’ve not heard of this it goes something like this:

  1. My wife and I went to the doctor’s office and had a sonogram done that reveals ...
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JUN
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Online Marital Status After a Very Short Marriage

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I received an email some time ago that actually hit pretty close to home in regards to my experience with online dating: How should I handle listing my marital status when I was divorced after a very short marriage? Especially when the divorce was caused by the other person cheating? Here is the email that was sent to me (I’ve changed some details to protect her identity):

A few years ago, my very short marriage of about a year broke down ...

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MAR
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Should Online Dating Come Naturally?

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I recently had a reader contact me to let me know that he was giving up on trying to use online dating. He listed several things that bothered him but a big part of his argument was this:

Online dating should come naturally and if it doesn’t come naturally for me, then I guess I shouldn’t be using it. Online dating is hard and that’s a problem…right?

I think the idea that online dating should come easy is a common misperception. ...

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JAN
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Embarrassed to Reveal You Met Online

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Have you found success with online dating but now you or your significant other is struggling to admit to others how you met? Believe it or not, my wife and I have actually been there as well.

At a company Christmas party several years ago we were in a group of at least 6 people (perhaps more, my memory fails me) and everyone was talking about how they met. When it came to my wife and I, we weren’t embarrassed: we ...

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NOV
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Men That Go Beyond One Email Attempt in Online Dating

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Recently I wrote an article discussing the topic of a man re-contacting a woman after his first email was unsuccessful (that is, she may have looked at his profile but didn’t respond).

In that article, I discussed how the reader had a theory that contacting later could be beneficial because she may be more able to respond at that time. This wasn’t something that I had considered in my original article on contacting a second time (but an ...

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OCT
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Thoughts on Dating Confidence and Comfort

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When I first started this site, one of the things that bothered me most about the online dating advice I had been finding was that everything had the same answer: be more confident.

I found this advice very hard to take and I actually gave up on acting confident. I think occasionally I might have been successful at appearing confident but I was consistently successful as not portraying who I really was…the gains weren’t worth the sacrifice.

At any rate, I discussed ...

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JUN
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Bringing a Friend on a First Date with Online Dating

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From time to time I see online dating safety advice offering this as a suggestion: bring a friend with you on a first date.

I understand the need to be safe but I really dislike this suggestion. Mostly because I had a woman bring a friend on a first date with me and it really hurt the odds of having another date (there wasn’t one). Admittedly, I found her approach as annoying as her actions…so I guess a full story is ...

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JUN
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My Online Dating Success Story

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Sometimes I reference my experience in my other posts and while I discuss my dating history in my guide, I wanted to have an article I could make references to that anyone could see. I’m not going to go into extreme detail but this should give a nice overview of my online dating experience for those interested.

The Failure Phase

I started dating online in June many years ago. I had actually thought about signing up for an online dating service ...

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MAR
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