I was reviewing some of my old articles from when I first started this site back in 2007 and decided to bring up some of the “forgotten” articles.
In this case I wanted to talk about a belief that many people hold true that can hurt their online dating experience: limiting themselves to dating a single person at a time.
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Many of the people that follow this rule will, from the very beginning, be very careful to only speak with and then date one person at a time. Other times it seems to work in reverse: once they start talking to someone they then decide that this person is the only one they will speak to (I see this more often with my female readers).
In one of my first articles I ever wrote I argue why this is a bad way to approach online dating. Now I used this approach myself so I know exactly how bad it can work. In this article I compare my experience of dating one person at a time to my later days of dating many at once. You can read all about my experiences here:
Dating Multiple People (And Why You Should Be Doing It)
I understand why many of us want to approach online dating this way. For many it’s the romantic aspect of finding that one. For others, it is the fact that the old style of dating (offline) worked in such a way that most of us would only ever be dating one person at a time. Or if we met someone at the bar, we wouldn’t turn around and immediately try to meet someone else further down the bar. For many it’s just about being honest.
I understand these thoughts and even held many of them to be true myself for a long time. But now, having had success with the opposite approach, I would encourage everyone who holds this approach to be the “best” way to meet someone online to consider just how wrong they could be. As I discuss in my article, it isn’t just about odds! There are so many benefits many of us rarely consider from taking a new approach.
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About the Author:
Brad initially struggled with online dating but over time became quite successful using it. He met his wife using online dating and has been giving advice and helping people improve their results since 2007. He has written a Free Online Dating Guide to help others find success with online dating. You can learn more about his personal experience using online dating and running this website here.