Earlier this week when reviewing dating profiles in preparation for our “photo shoot”, I had used my wife’s old online dating account to log in so I could see what other people’s pictures were like. She checked her email a few hours later that afternoon and found she had communication from someone at the dating site! This was surprising for two reasons:
- We believed her activity was private (I’m definitely not trying to find dates for her!)
- She has no picture
In all likelyhood, the guy who was interested in her was someone I had viewed when reviewing photos. He saw someone was checking him out and contacted her. I think this (nearly) immediate response is just another measure of the effort guys have to go through when dating online. Internet dating sites are far too popular to believe you are the only person contacting a particular woman! The difference between the attention my wife got while dating online with no effort and the attention I received with so much work was significant (with her fairing much better!). So guys: don’t beat yourself up if you’re not flooded with dates despite a ton of attempts. If you want some proof to the truth of this, just ask your next date how many guys communicate with her (email, winks, etc) in a week. My advice is to continue making contact with brief emails. The competition within online dating is real so make sure you are a part of it.
You might also be interested in reading: The Numbers Game.
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About the Author:
Brad initially struggled with online dating but over time became quite successful using it. He met his wife using online dating and has been giving advice and helping people improve their results since 2007. He has written a Free Online Dating Guide to help others find success with online dating. You can learn more about his personal experience using online dating and running this website here.